so many dos in one question. the idea is that you want to keep that connection with the human you are refusing, yet you feel somehow obliged to say yes, and the only reason behind that ‘yes’ is fear. You also feel a sense of betrayal – while I am accepting you just the way you are, and ask nothing from you, you on the other hand consider I am not enough – I need to prove my worth by being someone I am not in order to please the wanting inside you – wanting that is based on ‘not loosing your reputation’, and on top of all this, if you say a clear “no”, the reply is: but wouldn’t make your soul happy, if you would bring joy to another human? And then you are bonded, and tied up even more – emotional blackmail complete. And that human keeps insisting everyday, even though you keep saying no. Playing with your emotional buttons until you give up, until you crack.